Possley's Paradigm: A Path to Freedom From Negative Thinking
Introduction to Possley's Paradigm
Possley's Paradigm is a transformative roadmap designed to help individuals break free from persistent negative thinking patterns. By engaging with its nine foundational concepts, individuals can uncover their true selves and live in the present moment, shedding the weight of past regrets and future anxieties. This paradigm begins with the crucial step of awareness and extends into a holistic approach to self-improvement and mental wellness.
The Nine Concepts of Possley's Paradigm
Awareness: I am aware that I have thousands of thoughts each day and this is normal. I am aware that I am more than what these thoughts say about me and the world around me. I am aware that I am separate from these thoughts and that they are not based in truth. They are fragments, half-truths and stories from the past and future. I am aware that when I am identified as one with the thoughts, I am out of present moment living and it is unlikely that I feel happy or fulfilled as our egoic thoughts, always want more.
Attachment: Ego creates attachment to people, places, things, ideas, opinions & thoughts. When attached, I can become paralyzed at the thought of not having them. When attached, I can become paralyzed at the thought of not having them because my self-worth becomes tied to these attachments. I know I am more than my egoic attachments. Releasing our egoic attachments doesn’t mean I can’t enjoy these items, ideas, and opinions. It simply means I am not defined by them. I know I am more than my attachments. I relinquish, surrender and let go of the emotional attachments I have while still enjoying them.
Acceptance: I fully accept everything in my life exactly as it is, the good and the bad. The past is over, and the future is an unknown. I accept that I am the sum total of all of my choices, and I know I always have a choice, as tough as that choice may be. I sit in present moment, fully accepting everything exactly as it currently is, was, or will be. I know I am where I am because of my choices, and my choices today influence tomorrow, aware that there are also other variables out of my control influencing my tomorrow.
Be the observer (of thoughts): I have thoughts like everyone else. As I am separate from my thoughts, I choose to be the observer. My thoughts are separate from me and go by like I am watching a movie, a parade or as passing clouds in the sky. I am the observer of all my thoughts as they go by, saying to self, “I am separate from my thoughts. I am more than what my thoughts say about me and the world around me.”
Surrender: When a situation, thought or idea is too much for me to handle, I put my hands out and surrender to something outside of and greater than me: God, Nature, The Universe, Consciousness, etc. I drop the oars and become the water. I surrender control knowing “this” is bigger than me & will work itself out.
Lean-in & Let Go: When I feel an uncomfortable thought, feeling, or emotion come over me, I sit and get centered with my feet firmly planted on the ground. I lean in and feel what is coming up and take slow deep breaths for 3-5 minutes as the energy around this sensation is released and slowly dissolves. The goal is to breathe through the sensation, refraining from avoiding, distracting, redirecting, repressing, suppressing, etc. I let go of the judgments, ratings, and comparisons of the ego. I let go of attachment with the thought, I let go of association with the thought. I let go of the idea that the thought is me. I let go each and every time the thought comes up that tells me I am less than or better than someone else.
Forgiveness: When I forgive, it doesn’t mean what happened wasn’t wrong or make what happened ok. I forgive for me, if and when I want to, on my terms, if and when I am ready to, so I can heal and be free of the emotional burden I am carrying. I don’t have to forget, but I forgive and move on for my sake, on my timeline, if and when I want to. It’s about lessening my emotional connection with an act or situation that is no longer serving my greater good.
Affirmations & Gratitude: Move into an abundance mindset with affirmations & gratitude. Affirmations & Gratitude are written and said daily to reframe our thinking and shift our mindset from lack and scarcity to one of plenty and abundance. The paradigm affirmation is, “I am beautiful. I am strong. I am worth it. I am enough!” And if you aren't sure what to be grateful for, be grateful for your senses, that you can smell a flower or taste your favorite meal, hear your favorite song or read your favorite book.
Action: When you are associated with thought and are stuck emotionally, or physically can’t get off the couch, set a clear intention and act mindfully. Meditate, do 20 jumping jacks, go for a walk, mindfully hand-wash, any of which can cause an action chain reaction! Get unstuck from ruminating thoughts and overwhelming feelings or emotions by performing next right action. In such anxious or depressed states, one can feel physically and emotionally locked down. Take action, any action! Launch into an activity for you which creates space and separation from your egoic ruminating thoughts!
In closing: Possley's Paradigm provides a structured yet flexible approach to mental wellness. By practicing these nine concepts, individuals can detach from their egoic thoughts, uncover their true selves, and live more fully in the present moment. This paradigm offers a pathway to inner peace and fulfillment, encouraging a life less burdened by negative thinking and more enriched by self-awareness and acceptance.
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Imagine living each day with a clear mind, free from the incessant chatter of thoughts that lead to self-doubt and anxiety. Picture a life where you no longer feel imprisoned by your thoughts, where true contentment and fulfillment come from within, rather than being dependent on external circumstances. What if the secret to true freedom lies in a simple yet profound shift in your perception of yourself?
Possley's Paradigm is a revolutionary approach that serves as a roadmap to wellness. The paradigm unveils nine transformative concepts designed to help you break free from the confines of egoic thinking. This isn't a quick fix or a magic bullet; it requires dedication and effort, but is simpler than you think. If you are willing to do the work, to look inward, and to apply these principles in your daily life, you will see an instantaneous change!
The paradigm helps you transcend the limitations of your mind and step into a life of inner peace and contentment; finding happiness from within as opposed to a destination of happiness "over there" or "once I have x, then I'll be happy." Unlock the door to a new way of being. Dive in, commit to the process, and discover the power of Possley's Paradigm.
